A brief summary of our 2nd Eczema Support Group meeting in Mumbai on the 13th of October, Monday 2014

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I have started a Eczema Support Group in Mumbai for the parents of children with moderate to severe eczema. We are having had our 2nd Eczema Support Group Meeting on the 9th 13th of October, Thursday Monday 2014 at Mahalaxmi, Mumbai. We had our first introductory session in early August and will be having our second session next week. The first one was introductory in nature where as in the second one I am planning to discuss a couple of topics one of which is the foremost in every parent’s mind.

Agenda: Treatments for eczema and diet

All those residing in Mumbai who would be interested in joining us please get in touch with me via email and I will mail you the details –

eczemanindianperspective@gmail.com

As C S Lewis said ‘Friendship Group is born at that moment when one person says to another ”  What! You too? I thought I was the only one” 

Products and resources which help to manage eczema

I have been meaning to put up a post of the resources and products (mostly natural formulations) that have proved beneficial in some way or the other in the past few years while treating my daughter’s eczema. These products have been recommended by other parents based on their experiences while treating their child’s eczema. I would like to mention that while my daughter is still on immunosuppressive medication to control her very severe eczema, some of them might prove to be extremely beneficial for your child like it has for many other children.

This is obviously not an exhaustive list by any means and I have listed a few products that have come to my notice and a few other products which I use on my children.

Creams, moisturisers and salves

I have written earlier about moisturisers and creams but these products deserve a special mention. I have put down a few completely natural products which are not mainstream and are mostly formulated by parents of children with eczema after they tried out various mainstream creams and moisturisers but to no avail. Furthermore, all these products are free of steroids, Sulphates, parabens and other preservatives, artificial fragrances, petrochemicals and are made mostly from natural organic ingredients. These products have proven to be beneficial to many children and in some cases, parents have been able to substitute topical steroid creams and moisturisers with preservatives and other chemicals with these natural and organic products successfully.

However, for mild to moderate eczema, you must use the steroid creams and medicines prescribed by the doctor to calm an infection or bad flare up for your child. But in the long-term if you can use a combination of natural moisturizer and other lifestyle and dietary changes to keep eczema successfully under control, that is the best situation one should work towards. I am still trying to figure out what is best for my daughter and how to manage her eczema without using steroids, immunosuppressant and other such powerful medicines and through our own journey it will really make me happy if I can help some other children and their families to cope with eczema.

I have used the first 2 products and coconut oil on both my children. I have found the Purepotions cream to be very effective on extremely dry patches and the organic coconut oil is the main moisturiser for my daughter. Some of the other products have been recommended by other parents of children with eczema and/or adults with eczema who have found relief by using these products. I have also come across some of these products while continuing my search for products to help my daughter and others like her suffering from Atopic Dermatitis.  

However, you have to be careful before using the products for the first time on your child and should check the label to see if your child is allergic to any of the ingredients in any such products.

 

  • Purepotions Intensive moisturising ointment This natural salve was formulated in UK by a mother, Natalie Balmond, when she took matters into her own to find an alternative natural solution to alleviate her daughter’s suffering due to bleeding sores covering 90% of her body. It has Beeswax which acts as a natural antibacterial barrier protecting the skin from external irritants and locking moisture in as well as Hemp  which is extremely rich in essential fatty acids which are often lacking in those with dry skin. One can find out more about this cream and order on their website (they deliver to India) – http://www.purepotions.biz/ and once can also purchase this ointment through other websites like http://www.everythingforeczema.com/skin-salvation.html.

 

 

  •  Chickweed and Calendula cream– The founder of the website, Ms Gail Palmer is another such mother whose daughter had eczema when she was small and she struggled to bring it under control. She developed this product made of chickweed and Calendula especially for chaffed, dry skin like in the case of eczema. Chickweed has been traditionally used by herbalists to help sooth itching, and Calendula to reduce inflammation. She has her own website and blog and one can buy this product on her website http://www.everythingforeczema.com/chickweed-and-calendula-cream.htm

 

 

 

Emily skin soothers

 

  • Baby and adult skin soother from the brand Emily Skin Soothers– Made by an acupuncturist for his daughter’s eczema, this balm contains only natural ingredients. It contains just three chinese herbs in a base of olive oil and beeswax. This product is available on the website http://www.eczemacompany.com/natural-eczema-cream/ and is shipped to India by this website.

 

 

 

  • Odylique Repair Lotion and Ultra Rich Balm by Essential Care– these and other skin care products have been formulated by Margaret and her family since 1980s. She was motivated by the lack of products suitable for her own and her family’s very sensitive and eczema-prone skin and she formulated skin care products based only on organic herbs, plant oils and natural active ingredients. The lotion and the balm are the 2 products made specifically for eczema prone skin and one can purchase their products from their website http://www.essential-care.co.uk/organic-skincare-for-problem-skin/organic-skincare-for-itchy-skin.html 

 

 

LJs natural

 

  • Organic Scratchy Balm and Organic Scratchy Bath/Body Oil by LJs Natural– These products were formulated by Lisa Johnson who had been suffering from severe eczema for a long time after a lot of research and experimentation. The combination of these products and complementary therapy including diet helped bring her eczema under control ever since. The balm is a blend of organic shea butter, avocado oil, evening primrose oil and may help provide relief from itching due to dry skin conditions in a completely natural way. The bath and body oil can be used on children since it is a blend of lavender and chamomile (which are great essential oils good for dry and damaged skin and are very relaxing if used before bed time). This product is now available for delivery to India after I contacted her last week. You can check out her website at http://www.lj-natural.com/my-story/.

 

Organic coconut oil

  • Coconut oil (Organic)– This moisturiser is something we have been using for quite a while now and it has proved to be very helpful especially during the times when my daughter’s skin is broken at places due to constant itching. It is an excellent emollient for not only coating the skin but penetrating it as well, unlike a mineral oil that only coats the skin. This is readily available in India from brands like Conscious Foods, Down to Earth, Kama etc.

 

 

Therapeutic clothing and products

There are some specialised types of products available to help patients suffering from eczema cope with the aches and pains and sleepless nights associated with this skin condition and have to be used in combination to the regular medications and mositurisers. Amongst these, the most obvious and natural ones which help in reducing skin aggravation is the use of completely natural laundry cleaners. I have touched upon this topic in my earlier post – “Eczema- a change in lifestyle”  particularly in relation to availability of these products in our country.

Today I am writing about other products which have been specially formulated to help in reducing itchiness, increasing the comfort level and which might help in reducing the intensity and frequency of flare ups in some people. I have used The Tubifast Garments on my daughter when she still had mild eczema and was advised wet wrapping treatment by her dermatologist. I have also used the Dermasilk full sleeves roll neck t shirt on her and it helped to some extent to reduce her itching at times. In particular, the Dermasilk Elite Girl Brief has proved to be beneficial to my daughter and she wears it to school everyday. It has helped reduce the itching in her groin area to a large extent.

Again, I have shortlisted most of these products based on the reviews and recommendations of other parents who have found these to be beneficial in some way or the other. There must be many more which have been developed  and the good thing is that there are a whole host of products developed specifically to minimise discomfort and itching associated with Atopic Dermatitis and thus improving the overall quality of life for an eczema patient.

 

Dermasilk

  • Dermasilk Therapeutic Clothing–  This is a line of clothing used in the treatment of various forms of dermatitis, eczema and allergic skin conditions and is made of a special, knitted medical grade silk (not regular silk material) by Espere Healthcare in the UK. One can read more about them on their website- http://www.dermasilk.co.uk/. They manufacture full sleeves roll neck T shirts, full length footless leggings, tubular sleeves (for elbows and knees) , underwear (for boys and girls), child gloves, short sleeves T shirt amongst others. I have used the long sleeves T shirt and full leggings for my daughter but intermittently due to various reasons and she was pretty comfortable wearing this at night. You can buy their products on the website- http://www.theallergyshop.com.au/dermasilk-kids/ since this website delivers to India.

 

Tubifast

 

  • Tubifast Garments by Monlycke Healthcare– Tubifast Garments are specifically made to manage eczema using the Wet Wrapping Technique also called Wet Dressing Technique. They are found in various forms for children- gloves, leggings, full sleeves vests in all sizes. Apart from these, Tubifast Patch Wrap,  is used to soothe and protect isolated patches of eczema, especially behind the knees or the elbow and comes in pairs. One can read more about them on their website- http://www.molnlycke.com/patient/en/Products/Wound-care-products/Tubifast-Garments/.  The garments can be ordered at the website- http://www.theallergyshop.com.au/dermasilk-kids/ and they deliver to India as well.

 

 

  • Scratch Me Nots– This is a website where once again a mother, Andrea, developed a product looking for a way to stop her daughter from scratching all the time due to her eczema and wanted to stop the itch- scratch cycle. She then eventually figured out how to bring her eczema under control once her daughter stopped scratching and thereafter they could sleep at nights and decrease the visits to the doctors and the medications. She has developed ScratchMeNot Flip Mittens, ScratchMeNot Flip Mitten Body, Bamboo Bubby Bag, ScratchMeNot Mitten Sleeves all designed for babies and children upto 6 years of age to stop their scratching especially at night. These products are made with an unique blend of bamboo viscose, organic cotton & lycra and one can buy their products on the website- http://www.eczemacompany.com/scratchmenot-flip-mitten-sleeve-formerly-classic/ or the company website- http://www.scratchmenot.com/view-all/.

Skintoskin

  • Skin to Skin biofunctional clothing – These products were developed by a dermatologist especially for babies, children and adults with atopic skin conditions like eczema. These are made from 70% pure cotton and 20% brown algae (seaweed) which has been bonded with silver particles giving the remaining 10%. According to the company, the seaweed extract has natural properties that soothes and protects against itchiness and the silver adds antiseptic properties, drastically reducing the growth of any potentially harmful bacteria on the skin.  The products available are boxer shorts for girls/boys, long sleeves and short sleeves Tshirts, socks and leggings. One can buy these products at  http://www.everythingforeczema.com/skin-to-skin.html (they deliver to India) and their website is http://uk.skintoskin.eu/ incase you need further information.

Diet and eczema

The other aspect of managing eczema that keeps coming up again and again from other parents who have successfully brought their child’s eczema under control and others who have been able to manage their own eczema is through their diet. This is something which my husband and I have been contemplating for some time for our daughter but have not been able to implement by ourselves. For a child, a well-balanced nutritional diet is critical for growth and well being and this is even more true when the child is on a restrictive diet due to eczema, allergies etc.

Fortunately, I came to know of a naturopath based in Mumbai recently and we have approached him to help us streamline Aiyana’s diet to help us to possibly decrease her dependency on medications which keeps her eczema under control currently. Even though no doctor will really recommend a change in the diet for eczema unless it directly affects a person due to his or her allergies, more and more people with severe eczema are going down this path especially when their dependency on powerful medicines with equally powerful side effects becomes too great. Hence the role of naturopaths, natural formulations and home remedies in chronic conditions like eczema.

But you must take the same precautions that you would take before giving any mainstream medicines to your child by finding out about the impact of dietary changes, side effects of any supplements given, regular monitoring required etc. Thus even in the case of managing your child’s eczema through changes in the diet and supplements, you should be clear about why you are eliminating some foods while keeping or even increasing others and not just follow all the recommendations blindly. For a child, a well-balanced diet is very important for growth and the dietary changes should take into account protein, calcium requirements of a growing child amongst other things.

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On this front, after quite a bit of research on the resources available on diet and eczema, I have come across a book called “The Eczema Diet” by an Australian nutritionist Karen Fisher. Twelve years ago Karen’s daughter developed eczema soon after she was born. By the age of two, her daughter’s eczema had become so severe that Karen decided it was time to find her own solution.  Karen successfully controlled her daughter’s severe eczema by formulating a diet plan for her daughter. This book is based on a decade of extensive research of the causes of eczema by Karen Fischer.  It has helped a lot of people to bring their eczema under control and has also helped a lot of parents to manage their child’s eczema in a much more natural way.

I had ordered this book on http://www.theallergyshop.com.au/the-eczema-diet-by-karen-fischer/. This book has recently been delivered to me and I am still going through the same. So far I have read about how it works, the top eczema safe foods as well as the ones which trigger eczema.  In case you have already taken help of this book and tried this diet on yourself or your child, I would be really happy to hear from you.

 

I have tried to bring together in one place a variety of products (creams, moisturisers, clothing) which have helped many children and adults control their eczema and live a comfortable life. Eczema, while not usually life threatening in nature, can really hamper a family’s quality of life on a daily basis since lack of sleep, discomfort, itchiness, medications and their side effects take a toll on children with eczema and their parents alike.  However, there have been a number of parents who have found a way that has worked for their child to some extent or the other and all the trial and error they have gone through has been worth it in the end. While I am also one of those parents still struggling to bring my daughter’s eczema under control with minimal or no medication at all, I would like to live you with a thought that I often have to remind myself on those days when it all seems so difficult-

“In between goals is a thing called life, that has to be lived and enjoyed”- Sid Caesar 

 

 

 

Our tryst with Ayurveda and our first Eczema Support Group meeting in Mumbai

In my last couple of posts I had mentioned that I was trying out Ayurveda as an option of treatment for my daughter simultaneously with the immunosuppressive medication Cyclosporin that she is currently on. She was started on Ayurveda treatment in May and it carried on during her summer holidays till the end of June. She was given a mix of medicines  in the powder form ( made of natural ingredients) and others in the liquid form. In all there were quite a few medications before and after breakfast, evening snacks and dinner, and it is to my daughter’s credit that she took all the medicines without much fuss at regular intervals.

Dietary restrictions and Ayurveda

However, the more difficult part was to live with the many and varied dietary restrictions on a daily basis.  Foods which are restricted not only include food groups like fermented food products ( curd, yogurt, dosa, idli, cheese etc) ,cold foods like food straight from the refrigerator, ice creams, cold drinks or juices but also citrus foods like tomatoes, sweet lime, lemons; vegetables like potatoes, cauliflowers, leafy green vegetables like spinach; processed foods like cakes, pasta, noodles containing maida (refined wheat flour), fish and meat, cold cuts of meat, canned foods– the list was pretty comprehensive. Due to the fact that Aiyana was on vacation and at home, we did manage to follow almost all the restrictions but it was pretty tough for an 8 year old to remember and adhere to these restrictions on a daily basis. I guess given all that she has been through in the last couple of years she has matured beyond her age and understands what needs to be done even if she does not like it at all.

But inspite of following this treatment for almost 2 months, there was no marked improvement and infact her itching became progressively worse and she was unable to sleep throughout the night. It was once again a most difficult and stressful time for all of us and most of all for my daughter. As per our follow up which was scheduled in early July, I took her back to the institute and this time she was met by their skin specialist as well. Upon hearing that the medicines had made her very itchy, he changed most of her medicines and asked us to give it some more time.

Unfortunately, by that time Aiyana was extremely uncomfortable and I stopped all the ayurvedic medicines by second week of July. After showing her to her regular doctors (pediatrician and dermatologist), she was put on a low dose of oral steroids. Infact over the last couple of years we have noticed that whenever her skin has flared up or seems to be out of control even with her regular medication and routine, oral steroids is the only medication which brings it completely under control. Even cyclosporin has not had that effect on her in the past year that she has been on that medication. After consultation with her doctors, we were advised to increase and try a higher dose of cyclosporin (along with the oral steroids) for the next couple of months to see if that made her skin stable only after which it would be decided to change her medication.

The struggle is just a part of our story

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So this is where we are now, still looking for a stable alternative to her ongoing medication. We have our ups and downs and it has been a long journey for us since Aiyana was diagnosed with Atopic Dermatitis. But in the end, she is so much more than a child with eczema. Eczema and all the problems associated with it are just a part of our family’s walk through life.

There was always a risk trying out alternative medicine but I wanted to explore that option incase it proved to be a viable one for her and did not have the kind of risks associated with the side effects of the medication she is on currently. But the biggest risk in my opinion is that there is not much regulation with regards to the manufacturing of medicines. Unlike in mainstream medicines like steroids, immunosuppressive medication and other such medicines, ayurveda and other alternative medicines like homoeopathy are not that regulated. Thus I was not 100% sure about the purity of the medicine (especially since some of them were manufactured by little known Ayurvedic pharmaceutical companies in various parts of our country) and hence the efficacy and this always niggles at my mind.  I am not sure how this issue will be resolved in the near future and but this remains in my mind a stumbling block for ayurveda to become integrated with mainstream medicine. But there are ways to follow some of the simpler natural remedies prescribed in ayurveda by sourcing the natural ingredients and using them as home remedies as has been the case in many Indian families over the ages. In any case, this decision was taken out of our hands due to my daughter’s skin condition and I now look ahead in our family’s journey in dealing with eczema.

What kind of experience have you had in treating eczema with ayurveda (If any)? Please do let know your opinion on the same!

Eczema Support Group- our first meeting

I had mentioned that I was conducting the first Eczema Support Group meeting in Mumbai end of July. We finally had our first meeting early August and there were 4 of us, all mothers of children with severe eczema  residing in Mumbai who came together to share our experiences, stories, issues and most importantly our pain of watching our child suffer. Going ahead we will be sharing information and our own unique experiences in dealing with eczema, we will also have  experts talking to us on various topics associated with Atopic Dermatitis amongst other things. Incase you know someone residing in Mumbai who has a child suffering from moderate to severe eczema and wants to join our group, do ask them to get in touch with me at eczemaanindianperspective@gmail.com.

I had planned to write about some products that have been beneficial to my daughter and other children with eczema over the years but I realised that it is better if I write separately about that in my next post. Apart from natural supplements, moisturizer and creams, special therapeutic clothing (some formulated by other mothers whose children had severe eczema), there are some amazing books/CDs for children available  across the world which are immensely useful in dealing with eczema directly or indirectly by reducing the stress associated with this condition. These do much more than just provide information, they inspire and motivate children (and adults) in the face of eczema and other such difficulties. I will be putting up a post on this soon!

In the meantime, I leave you with a thought which is something that I try to live by and instill in my children-

“Happiness is not the absence of problems; it’s the ability to deal with them”– Steve Maraboli

Eczema Support Group in Mumbai- a beginning

There have been a few developments at my end. The first one is that I am in the process of setting up a support group for the families of children suffering from moderate to severe eczema in Mumbai. Support groups play a very important role by not only alleviating the pain and suffering of patients of various medical conditions across the world but also by providing emotional support to their care givers (in this case parents).

I know firsthand what the impact of having a child with severe eczema is on a family who is dealing with this chronic condition on a daily basis. The parents (usually the mother in most cases) deal with the emotional and physical stress of managing their child’s eczema apart from the rigours of administering medicines and the long drawn (usually) moisturising and bathing routine of a child with eczema. Also, a lot of times the doctors are not in a position to give as much time as is required by some parents to understand properly how to manage their child’s daily moisturising, bathing routine which is critical in these cases and also to explain the other lifestyle and other changes required to keep eczema under control.

The objective of the support group is to thus fill this gap and make sure the parents are well informed about the same. Infact, parents themselves are able to come up with various suggestions, information at times of what has worked in managing and improving their child’s eczema which can benefit another child.

Also, sometimes it just helps to talk to someone else who is going through the same rigours of dealing with their child’s eczema as only someone who is in a similar situation is truly able to understand what the other is really going through.

The first meeting has been tentatively scheduled as per the details given below-
Planet Godrej
30 K K Marg,
Close to saatrasta
Mahalaxmi, Mumbai 400011
Date: 28th July, Monday
Time: 10 am

Incase you are interested in attending the same or any of our future meetings, please do get in touch with me. My email id is- eczemaanindianperspective@gmail.com.

The second development is a talk I had given at a forum which was an unique patient oriented meeting organised by IADVL SIG Pediatric Dermatology (Indian Association of Dermatologists, Venereologists and Leprologists) at Wadia Hospital, Parel on 22nd June 2014. The CASE meeting was attended by around 35 persons that included practising and teaching dermatologists, dermatology and pediatrics residents, and caregivers of Atopic Dermatitis patients.

My part in the same was on the topic “Our life with eczema- a family perspective” and captured our experience of dealing with our daughter’s severe eczema over the past few years.

The link to my talk is on youtube as given below-

Our life with eczema: A family perspective-  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sF17Cj1raAc

There you will also find the other videos on the talks given by the other doctors and the parent of another child with Atopic Dermatitis on various topics like “Eczema? Why me? How do I cope? – Dr. Manish K. Shah”; Coping with eczema everyday– Dr. Rajesh Jadhav; Eczema treatment highs and lows- Dr. Rui Fernandez; Infections and eczema- Dr. Manjyot Gautam; Wet wraps for eczema- Dr. Amrita Talwar; Overcoming eczema: It’s not impossible- Mrs Unnikrishnan. 

My endeavour is to increase awareness about this condition in my country as well as help other children and their families deal with Atopic Dermatitis. The formation of the support group, my blog and sharing my family’s experience in relevant forums are baby steps towards that goal.

Given below are some words that I keep close to my heart and which says it all-

“Some of the most comforting words in the universe are “me too.” That moment when you find out that your struggle is also someone else’s struggle and that you’re not alone fighting that same battle.”

Our journey continues….( a look at our ancient way of healing- Ayurveda and mindfulness meditation)

I am back! I am back with more stories to tell, experiences to share and hopefully some tidbits of information which might help another parent to cope with their child’s eczema along the way. Only a parent who is a first hand witness to their child’ s suffering due to this skin condition ( and any other such chronic medical conditions)  will be able to empathise with another family’s pain, exhaustion and some times negative thoughts that can arise out of dealing with sleeplessness, social and psychological impact that eczema can have on on a child. And that is what keeps me going to share what works for us ( most of the time) and what products, methods etc help in dealing with my daughter’s eczema.

Our introduction to Ayurveda

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I had recently taken my daughter, Aiyana to an ayurvedic hospital ( IAIM Healthcare centre – an Institute of Ayurveda or Integrative Medicine) in the outskirts of Bangalore (the capital city in the southern state of Karnataka). I was not looking for a quick fix solution or a cure to her eczema, but just exploring other traditional methods of Indian medicine which go back a very long way and seeks to heal from within. My hope is to see if our traditional medicine has something to offer to help my daughter to control her eczema in the long run without the help of other powerful medications like she is on currently.

A rigorous process

At IAIM Healthcare Centre, she was first put on an increasing dose of medicated ghee ( it is a type of clarified butter made by simmering the butter made from the milk so that it gets caramelised which gives it the unique taste and aroma) along with a severely restricted diet. This was done to remove all the toxins from her body prior to starting medications, since Ayurveda considers ghee to be satvik ( in the mode of goodness)  and is the main ingredient in many traditional Ayurvedic medicines. She was given this for 4 days till her body was saturated with ghee (as they could make out from her stools). All this while she was ONLY allowed a diet of fruits (non citrus) and plain khichdi (which is a preparation made from rice and pulses); she was also not allowed to go out anywhere but stay in one place in a warm environment to facilitate this process. The 5th day was the day of purging and she was given a laxative in order to prepare her for the medicines to follow from the next day. All this while she was given a daily medicinal ghee massage and a warm bath mixed with herbs.

An interesting change

One very interesting change that took place during this time was that her skin condition was the softest and the smoothest I had seen in some time. While Aiyana’s immunosuppressive medication continued at the same level with no change, her skin condition improved dramatically with all the diet restrictions (and no other medicines). However, once the medicines started the next day and her diet restrictions eased up, her skin condition slowly came back to normal in the next few weeks. I guess her extremely restrictive diet played a key role in improving her skin condition during the first week at the ayurvedic hsopital (even though it is simply not possible to continue with this kind of diet for more than a few days).

However, Ayurvedic medication demands that one follows a restricted diet since certain food types do not go well with the ayurvedic medicines. Hence, Aiyana has been asked to stay away from fermented products (inc yeast based bakery items) like yogurt, dosa, idli etc; all citrus fruits and vegetables like oranges, lemons, tomatoes; root vegetables like cauliflower, potatoes; other processed and refined foods like white rice and refined sugar; leafy green vegetables. She has also been advised to have everything cooked in ghee. As you can make out it IS a difficult way of life to follow since it does not involve only medication but also a whole lot of changes in one’s diet. In any case, she has been very cooperative and we have been able to follow most of the food restrictions so far.

Our goal

The goal of Ayurvedic medicines according to Dr Gangadharan (who is the Head of the Dept. and treating my daughter) was to strengthen her immune system from within so that over time her body was naturally able to bring the severity of her eczema within a manageable level. I will keep you posted on her progress and any changes as far as Ayurveda is concerned. We have been back in Mumbai for 3 weeks now and her skin condition has come back to normal. I will however have to continue with her Ayurvedic medication for some more time if I want to give it a chance to work. I will also be taking her for a follow-up to IAIM Healthcare Centre next month in order to assess her progress, change in medication etc.

The good, the bad and the ugly

It is always a case of a mix of good days and bad days for her even with her medications. And since there are various triggers to her flare ups, it is nearly impossible to pin point and avoid the the same completely. This leads to a  yoyo like swing in her moods making it difficult for her and all of us especially on those bad (and ugly) days and nights with her itching and inability to sleep. I have already touched upon this psychological impact (which can lead to lack of self-confidence and social skills) and I have described how I have been dealing with it in my daughter’s case in my post Beauty is not just “skin” deep- helping your child cope with eczema.

Let them sleep, for when they wake…they will move mountains

We have been grappling with sleepless nights ever since she was 1-year-old (even though her condition was mild at that time) and when you add to that the mild eczema that my 4-year-old son has as well, you can see that it leads to a lot of sleepless nights and fatigue for the entire family. It is an aspect of eczema ( and Atopic Dermatitis in particular since it affects children) that severely impacts a child’s well-being leading to lack of concentration in school and a lack of self-confidence amongst other problems. It also one issue the entire family (which has children suffering from Atopic Dermatitis) will have faced some time or the other. As a result I have been searching for a way to improve our quality of sleep (without further use of medicines) by reducing stress levels and learning relaxation techniques.

Mindfulness Meditation

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To this end I have been reading about a form of stress reduction technique called ” Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction”  (MBSR) program developed by Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center. It is meant to work by making one more “grounded” or “aware” of the present moment and simply means paying attention in a particular way: “on purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally” as described by Dr Kabat- Zinn. In this post, I will be just touching upon this topic since we have just started following the same ourselves.

My goal in trying to incorporate it in our daily life is very simple – to help my daughter reduce her stress and frustration levels and hopefully cope with her medical condition better with time and practice. The good thing is that one does not have to be a Buddhist to practice this though it has its roots in Buddhism, Taoism and yoga. Mindfulness is the art of conscious living so that you live a life being who you are already and not try and be someone that you are not. Hence, one’s religious beliefs does not interfere with this practice.

Meditation and coping

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I am using the book and CD combination- “Planting Seeds: Practicing Mindfulness with Children which is based on Thich Nhat Hanh’s (a Zen Buddhist monk) thirty years of teaching mindfulness and compassion. They are designed to help relieve stress, increase concentration, nourish gratitude and confidence, deal with difficult emotions and improve communication.

While we have just started practising this, Aiyana has been enjoying our daily sessions of “deep relaxation” before bedtime since it is helping to calm her (and me) down quite a bit and relax. While it is too early to comment on the results of practising this, I can say that it has made a slight improvement in her sleep quality. And anytime that she wakes up feeling itchy, the music is soothing enough to lull her back to sleep most of the times. I am also planning to use another well-known book for practising mindfulness meditation with children – “Peaceful Piggy Meditation” by Kerry Lee Maclean for the same purpose.

Be happy for this moment, this moment is your life

And in the end, this is what matters. How well we lived our life, how well we loved, how we counted our blessings along the way; how we learned to accept the things we simply cannot change and faced our most difficult moments. This is the lesson I strive to teach my children, one lesson that I am myself learning every day of my life.

 

 

The only journey …is the journey within

I have been juggling a lot of balls in the air lately and in the midst of doing that I have fallen behind in my blogging lately. But I am happy to say that there have been some developments at my end with regards to my daughter. Her schooling is one of the things we have been dealing with and thinking about for the past six months or so. As I have mentioned earlier, Aiyana is currently on a low dose of immunosuppressive medication to control her eczema. I am sharing our experiences in the hope that it might help other children who are in a similar situation in some way.

Education and eczema

Inspite of the immunosuppressive medication, her eczema becomes worse when she sweats since her itching increases considerably. Aiyana’s school, Bombay Scottish in Mumbai, has been very supportive. She is excused from any outdoor activities including the school assembly, helped with her moisturisation and medications as and when required and generally taken care of as a whole. We make sure that she is picked up from school in the afternoon by car and does not have to travel in the hot sun while coming back home. But even that is not enough to help with her to cope with the sweating and itching and scratching at school.

As you would be aware, Mumbai has a tropical climate and is humid almost the throughout the year being close to the sea. She started missing school on a regular basis due to heat rashes and eczema flare up ( in India, only schools following an international curriculum are air conditioned). She would itch all over and therefore scratch in the class with a constant fear of being seen by her classmates. After consulting her doctors we finally decided to move her to a school with an air conditioned environment which we hope which would be more comfortable for her. To this end we did a 2 week trial in a school (based on international curriculum) with an air conditioned environment. This was possible entirely due to her dermatologist who helped to arrange this for her. At the end of 2 weeks it looked like it did seem to make a difference and she was quite comfortable in this environment. However, it still took us a while to decide on and finalise a school for her and our son (who starts school this summer).  This process is finally over and just last week we secured admission in an international school closer to home. Both my children start school in July and I am hoping that my daughter will be able to attend school regularly without the discomfort of constant itching due to sweat and subsequent scratching and pain.

A medical condition like this does not end with medications and visits to the doctor. Life is a constant struggle to carry on with routine activities on a daily basis under the onslaught of an unbearable itch (especially when there is a flare up). My 7 year old daughter used to be in constant fear of being seen by classmates while feeling the unbearable urge to scratch in odd places.  As I read somewhere recently, “eczema can be compared to a bully who sometimes keeps going for days on end, then leaves, only to reappear“.

Sleep deprivation is an added burden to bear for such small shoulders due to the itching and scratching at night at times. Even though Aiyana’s medications keeps  her eczema under control most of the times, there are frequent phases when it becomes worse due to stress, illness or other triggers. Antihistamines do not seem to help much in her case at night time and it is a difficult time for us as a family. It in fact happened very recently due to her illness and seems to get aggravated during times of ill health due to any reason whatsoever. While those nights (and days) seem to be a never ending cycle of itching and scratching, it is very important to provide constant support and keep your child’ spirits high. I try to make sure that I do not portray a defeatist or negative attitude and distract her as much as possible and find ways to make her itching more bearable (like rubbing instead of scratching).

Ayurveda- an ancient Indian way of life and healing

I am taking Aiyana for 2 weeks to I-AIM Health Care Centre near Bangalore (in the southern state of Karnataka) for an Ayurvedic check up and treatment. It is founded and run by Padmasrhi Darshan Shankar, known for his outstanding contributions in the field of revitalization of traditional systems of health-care in India. Ayurveda is not simply a healthcare system, but a form of lifestyle adopted to maintain perfect balance and harmony with nature thus making it a wholistic system of medicine. I am hoping that our traditional and alternative form of healthcare is able to complement and control my daughter’s eczema and help her in the long run. I will write more about it later once we are back from our trip. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Nutritional supplements- worth a try

Through interaction with other parents whose children have eczema, I have come to know that in some cases  nutritional supplements like Omega 3 oils, probiotic ( probiotics are organisms such as bacteria or yeast that are believed to improve health and are available in supplements and foods) and multi vitamin supplements have helped to lower the incidence of flare ups in childhood eczema and bring some under control. There is no concrete scientific evidence as of now to prove this conclusively and studies are going in some of these areas. Due to this, doctors rarely prescribe these as part of the normal course of medications for Atopic Dermatitis. But after reading up on these and consulting Aiyana’s doctors about the same I decided to try the Omega 3 and the probiotic supplements for some time for my daughter.

Probiotic

Omega 3 oilI did a lot of research on a suitable and safe product (and brand) for Aiyana ( there are many brands and types of Omega 3 oils and probiotic supplements worldwide) and based on the reviews, some literature etc I shortlisted the 2 products as given below-

 Nordic Naturals Omega 3-6-9 Junior and Rainbow Light Probilicious  Gummies  for children.

Aiyana has been taking these supplements for a few months now. I will be able to share our experience only after a reasonable period of time as these kind of steps usually work in the long run and the impact might not be immediately visible.

 

Its time to turn life’s stumbling blocks into stepping stones

A cnikihronic medical condition like eczema is rarely only a physical struggle, a lot has to do with an immense amount of inner strength that is required to cope with this on a daily basis. My daughter has to deal with the obvious consequences like physical discomfort, sleeplessness, fatigue as well as the social, emotional consequences of dealing with this condition everyday. It is as much my responsibility to make sure she is as comfortable as possible at a physical level as it is to ensure that she is equipped to deal with this condition at an emotional level keeping her self-confidence intact. She has grown stronger emotionally as a person since her traumatic month long ordeal in the hospital last summer due to an unforseen reaction to a medication given to control her eczema. (I have written about our experience in the post- “…the tough get going- part 2”)

I know that I have succeeded to a large extent in my endeavour when friends, families and even complete strangers praise my 7 year old’s cheerful smiles, her sweet and caring manners and her emotional strength.

Azathioprine and Cyclosporin ( an overview of two immunosuppressive medicines used to control my daughter’s eczema) from a parent’s point of view

I seem to be putting up a post quite infrequently off late but I hope to change that soon. In my defence I can only say that I have been enjoying myself too much and was quite tied up with my brother’s wedding late last month. It went off very smoothly and now the happy couple are spending quality time in Thailand.

Those of you who follow my blog and have read my earlier posts know what happened with my daughter due to the drug Azathioprine which was given to control her otherwise very severe eczema ( I have covered this in my post ….the tough get going Part II). I am pretty sure that other parents like me who have had to either put their child on this kind of immunosuppressive drug or have had to contemplate giving it go through the kind of jitters that I do from time to time.

I am very well aware about the reason and benefit of giving this medicine to my child without which leading a normal life for her would be almost impossible given the severity of her eczema at this point in time. But it does not stop me from thinking of all the possible side effects in the process of controlling her eczema especially given the life threatening consequences of giving her azathioprine last year. It is like having Hobson’s choice in this matter which means there is really no choice at all. I am sharing our experience with you in the hope that it may help you decide what is the best line of treatment for your child with the doctor’s support and bring a smile to your child’s face by making living with severe eczema bearable.

Hobson’s choice

IMG_1262By the time we gave Aiyana azathioprine last summer, we had exhausted all the other possibilities of various triggers like allergens, environmental causes like hot or cold temperatures, irritants like detergents amongst others. We also had an intensive moisturizing and bathing regimen to control her eczema but without much success. We had tried out all levels of topical cortisteroids and immunomdulators, wet wrapping therapies, phototherapy and oral steroids all of which are usually enough to manage mild-to-moderate atopic dermatitis. Although some mild cases of atopic dermatitis can be managed with emollients (creams, lotions and ointments) alone, there are some people who might require treatment with either topical corticosteroids or immunomodulators. When all these medicines and other measures to minimize environmental influences (elimination of allergens, dust mites, irritants like detergents and heat, perspiration and dry climates) fail, systemic options like oral steroids (prednisolone) and non-steroidal immunosuppressant agent such as azathioprinemethotrexate, ciclosporin or mycophenolate are often considered.

Azathioprine and cyclosporin- 2 different types of immunosppressant drugs

In Aiyana’s case azathioprine was prescribed by a leading pediatric dermatologist in London after doing a battery of tests including the enzyme test called TPMT (thiopurine methyltransferase). This enzyme plays a critical role in the chemical breakdown of azathioprine that is, in the way the body gets rid of this drug.  If a person is TPMT deficient, the effect of a particular dose of azathioprine will be exaggerated, and it could therefore become toxic to the bone marrow and hence the TPMT test is mandatory before giving this drug. Azathioprine has been in existence since the 1960s and was initially developed to prevent organ rejection and has been used for many years in the treatment of severe eczema. It is an immunosuppresant drug that is also known as antimetabolite. It hinders the growth of lymphocytes (a type of white blood cell) which are involved in inflammation associated with eczema. Azathioprine is given by mouth, usually once daily, and most often in the form of tablets of 25mg and 50mg.  It is also available in the liquid and allows more precise dosing for young children.

Cyclopsorin is another type of immunosuppressant drug which was also originally used to prevent organ rejection in transplant patients. It is in fact derived from a type of fungus. Even though the cause of Atopic dermatitis (eczema) is not completely understood and there is no cure as of now, what is known that immunological reactions occur in the skin of people with eczema and these are controlled by white blood cells (lymphocytes) that enter the skin from the blood. Cyclosporin decreases the production of chemical messengers which “switch on” these lymphocytes and thus dampen down strong allergic and immune reactions. It is available as capsules containing 10 mg, 25 mg, 50 mg and 100 mg of cyclosporin, however for children the liquid form is easier to give as a dose (one formulation is called Neoral®).

Side effects

Azathioprine has a very serious side effect and that is  ‘bone marrow suppression’, or ‘myelosuppression’.  The bone marrow is the site of production of the most important types of cell in the blood: the red cells (RBCs), the white cells (WBCs including neutrophils and lymphocytes) and platelets (important for blood clotting). White blood cells are critical in the body’s defence against infection, and if their numbers fall drastically (as did happen with my daughter),there will be a risk of potentially serious and even life threatening infection. Over the years it became clear that the patients who developed serious bone marrow suppression generally did so because they genetically inherited low TPMT activity. As mentioned earlier, this enzyme is essential in the chemical breakdown of azathioprine and thus has to be within a particular range for a person to be given this drug.

But no tests are really 100% foolproof as we saw in my daughter’s case. In spite of her test results being absolutely bang in the middle of the normal range and thus determining her dosage, within 3 weeks of putting her on this drug, she was hospitalised in the ICU with a life threatening infection due to severe “neutropenia” or an abnormally low number of neutrophils as a result of azathioprine induced bone marrow suppression. Neutrophils usually make up 50-70% of circulating white blood cells and serve as the primary defense against infections by destroying bacteria in the blood.

Hence, as in my daughter’s case, she developed life threatening infection and it was only the prompt and quality of medical attention, broad-based and potent antibiotics and antifungal medicines that saved her life. The dermatologist who had prescribed this drug had never seen this reaction in the many years that he has been successfully prescribing this drug to other children with such severe eczema. It became clear from my daughter’s reaction that there are other genetic variants that can be missed that can also make occasional patients susceptible to such severe adverse effects even while having the desired TPMT levels and these have possibly not been studied or accounted for.

Cyclosporin on the other hand is a potent immunosuppressant and starts to work very quickly (within 1–2 weeks) and the side effects of cyclosporin are almost all ‘dose-related’. Hence the side effects depends almost entirely on the dosage a person is taking although some people are more susceptible to the side effects than others. It cannot be given for long since the longer this drug is taken the more severe the side effects become. The main side effects of cyclosporin are hypertension (high blood pressure) and reduced efficiency of the kidneys (renal toxicity).  Blood pressure and kidney function need to be checked before treatment and monitored closely throughout treatment.

Regular and strict monitoring 

As with any such potent drugs, one has to be extremely particular about monitoring the relevant organ functions throughout the course of treatment. In Aiyana’s case, blood tests are a regular feature and she has almost come to terms with it. Initially I used to take her to one of the premier hospitals in Mumbai but in the past few months a phlebotomist has been coming home to collect her blood sample. He was referred by Aiyana’s pediatrician and is very gentle with her and it has made a world of difference as far as her blood collection is concerned especially since she has to go through this on a very regular basis.

In the case of azathioprine, the blood count levels become extremely important to monitor on a regular basis to check for bone marrow suppression. The medical protocol followed worldwide in the case of azathioprine is to undertake a blood test 3 weeks after starting treatment, then 12 weeks after starting treatment, and thereafter every 3 months if all the results are normal. However, as a learning from our traumatic experience, I would urge you to be on the side of caution and undertake the blood tests for your child every week for the first one or two months and then gradually space it out as per your doctor’s advice if there is no abnormal result. Such regular blood tests are a painful thing especially for a child but it is a necessary evil and must be carried out. These tests normally comprise a full blood count (mainly to check that white blood cell numbers – particularly neutrophil numbers – are not falling below normal levels), and liver function tests to ensure that the liver is not stressed.

When cyclosporin is given as the immunosuppressant, since kidney is one of the main organs which is affected, kidney function will need to be monitored regularly particularly the serum creatinine levels since any condition that impairs the function of the kidneys is likely to raise the creatinine level in the blood. It is thus important to recognize whether the treatment is leading to kidney dysfunction or not. The other important level to be monitored are the cholesterol levels since the reduced efficiency of the kidneys can also adversely affect the cholesterol levels leading to increased risk of heart disease.

Medicine that heals is not always sweet and caring words are not always pleasant

The main reason I chose to write about these 2 powerful drugs is that while there is a lot of information available about these drugs today on the net, it is not always easy to get the most relevant facts. One can get lost in too much of information all of which might not be completely relevant to a parent but more to a medical professional. Information about the plethora of side effects and adverse reactions from these drugs is also enough to scare away any parent from giving these to their children. I have tried to compile all the relevant and important information a parent should know before giving this drug to their child and bring it in one place.

The plan of these kind of treatments to control very severe eczema is, first, to achieve major improvement in the severity of a child’s eczema and then if possible to see it clear completely, though to achieve this may take several months or even years. We have had no choice but to use this treatment on our 7-year-old daughter and I hope that our experience and learnings come of use to other children afflicted with this condition in a severe form which usually affects their lives on a daily basis.  Of course, it is not easy for a seven-year old to take this medicine twice a day and undergo repeated blood tests, but as her caregiver I do not give her any option not too simply because we do not have any. We will have to evaluate her medication in the next few months and then go ahead with the next course of treatment based on her doctors’ recommendations.

I also wanted to share our experience with azathioprine so that other parents can take an informed decision while giving this drug and not repeat our mistake. One can simply never be too cautious where one’s child is concerned.

“Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had, and dealing with fears you didn’t know existed”

20131213_180745Aiyana now lives an almost completely normal life with minimal itching and with not much outward physical manifestations of this skin condition which has had an adverse bearing on her social life in the past. I know we are all doing the best we can with the best possible treatments available at this point in time though I am forever in search of other better options that might come our way in the future.

Even then there are some moments that I am plagued by some doubts as to whether we have done everything that we could have to prevent her eczema from being so severe or something else we have not tried so far. I am so grateful for being given a second chance with her and I am sure all those who know her and are greeted by her sunny smiles would agree with me when I say there must be something we are doing “right” after all.

You can only fill the glass of another….if your pitcher is full ( a note to the parents of children with eczema)

Seasons greetings for the new year!!  A new beginning…a new year filled with HOPE

It has been a while since I last put up a post. I have been traveling a bit and have also been a bit tied up with my younger brother’s upcoming wedding later this month. Having said that, I have missed penning down my thoughts since I have come to realise that there is a certain therapeutic value in sharing one’s joys and sorrows with other like minded people. It definitely makes the load one carries a lot lighter.

There are a lot of parents out there like me who are struggling to take care of their child and who are sometimes overwhelmed mentally and physically. And irrespective of whatever the medical problem is, I know only too well how helpless one feels to see your child suffering. But oh what a feeling it is to see one’s child get better and see the innocent smile on her face once again! I was lucky to have been given a second chance with my daughter last year and I do appreciate this gift, a lot of other parents are not as lucky.

So far so good- an update

The good news is that my daughter’s eczema (Atopic Dermatitis in her case, there are different kinds as I have discussed in my earlier posts) has been kept well under control for the past couple of months under the immunosuppressive drug, Cyclosporin. So the influence of oral steroids (prednisolone) has been waning and the sudden spike in her cholesterol levels last month (one of its side effects) has now receded. However, these kind of powerful drugs can usually only be given for a limited period of time and that also under strict monitoring via regular blood tests. Blood tests are thus a regular feature in our house and I have managed to have a gentle mannered phlebotomist who makes the process as painless as possible.

We will have a medical review coming up in a few months time when it will be seen whether the medication can slowly be phased out or another drug has to be introduced, but that’s a worry for another day. Till then I intend to keep trying to figure out if there is another way to help get Aiyana’s eczema under control.

Taking care of oneself

A lot of times, we as parents get so busy taking care of our children, we forget to take care of ourselves. This is especially true for those whose children have chronic health issues. But it is really important that you as a parent (parents are usually the primary caregivers in the case of their children) take care of your own physical and mental health at the same time. This is of course easier said than done and close to impossible in times of crises, but should be definitely taken seriously at most other times. If we have to be our child’s source of constant strength and love during difficult times, it is all the more important not to neglect ourselves.

It doesn’t get easier, you just get better

And I know exactly what I am talking about. My 6 year old daughter was in the ICU for 3 weeks last June out of which the first 2 weeks were critical. There was only one place I wanted to be and that was by her side everyday. My husband was partly in the hospital and partly taking care of our 3 year old son at home and our family and friends were our source of strength and support during that difficult phase. However, I was the one keeping vigil by her bedside every night since I needed to do it for her as well as for myself. I was extremely stressed and upset and hardly got more than a few hours of undisturbed sleep at a time amidst all the flickering lights and constant beeping of the monitors in the ICU. But somehow I kept going night after night with just a few hours of rest the next morning.

I now realise that my regular schedule of exercise in the past few years played a major role in enabling me to continue to be there for my daughter for those 3 weeks without any break. Regular exercise in any form is  a must to build stamina and ensure you are in good health to provide the best care for your loved ones.

The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it

This is true especially in times of crises when there is not even enough time to breathe properly. However, that is precisely the time when you have to remain as calm as humanly possible to make the best possible decisions in the interest of your child and provide the best support possible. The time when our children need us the most is usually the time when a parent is under tremendous stress and reels under the responsibility that comes with being a parent.

When I used to see the small form of my daughter lying in the ICU bed, the weight of the responsibilities of being her mother were the heaviest. I did not have the luxury of breaking down at any point in time. It was only my passion for reading which helped me relax and destress myself for a few minutes at a time each day. I used to read sitting next to her at night just to take my mind of all our problems and uncertainties even if just for a short while. There were of course times when my mind used to be crowded with all the negative possibilities and a feeling of helplessness, but relaxing even for a short while at night helped me prepare myself for the next day. It helped me to cope with the same problems just a wee bit better, but sometimes that itself makes a lot of difference.

Find your own way of relaxing, it is not only worth it but also essential for a caregiver.

I cant promise

 I can’t promise to solve all your problems, but I can promise you won’t have to face them alone

This is my promise to Aiyana and one I know that I will always strive to keep. A lot of times it is not possible for a parent to make our child’s suffering go away, but we can make sure that our children are not alone in their fight against eczema. Eczema differs from a lot of other medical problems in the way it affects a child’s physical appearance, nutrition, lifestyle, sleep and can be triggered by a host of factors like humidity, external irritants like house dust, perfumes, detergents, stress amongst others. This makes it difficult to control this condition in many cases and hence needs much more than just the medicine prescribed by the doctor unlike in other childhood diseases like chicken pox, measles etc.

The process of controlling and improving eczema can be quite labour intensive apart from being disruptive to one’s normal way of life but needs to be done nonetheless. A lot of long term lifestyle changes (including food related ones) may be required apart from a time-consuming skin and bath care routine for the child on a daily basis ( I have discussed both in my earlier posts- “Eczema- a change in lifestyle” and “Bath time! ( And skin care routine for eczema)”). Of course, the hardest part of being a parent is watching a child go through something like this and not being able to fix it for them…and just like me I know you are doing all you can.

“I may not be perfect, but when I look at my children I know that I got something in my life perfectly right” 

How true! Sometimes, in chronic and severe medical conditions like Atopic Dermatitis the condition makes itself blatantly visible. It manifests itself in the form of rashes, thickened and dark skin and in severe cases, weepy patches and lesions. It is easy for a child to become a target of ridicule and taunt like my daughter has been subjected to and it can have a negative effect on a parent as well. But to each of us blessed with a child, we know that our child is perfect in our eyes and will be loved no matter what their physical appearance (on which our society places such an importance).

So I hold my head up high and I am teaching my daughter do the same every day, for the rest of her life. I encourage my daughter to lead a normal life and hold her hands on those days her self-confidence falters.

At the end of the day, love is learning how to take excellent care of yourself so that you can take phenomenal care of the ones you love.

Eczema and diet (gluten free)

Eczema has been known to be affected by diet in many cases especially in the case of children. Eczema can be triggered or made worse by many things like house dust mites, excessive humidity or dryness, pollen, stress or by eating certain foods amongst others. In the case of many children with severe eczema, food maybe one of the causes but in the case of a few children it maybe their only trigger.

When Aiyana’s eczema became worse in June 2012, we did her blood allergy test which looks for specific allergen-related antibodies (IgE or immunoglobulins which is one of the 5 sub classes of antibodies) in order to identify her allergy triggers. I was really hoping that by finding out her food triggers we would be able to control her eczema which was worsening and slowly spiralling out of control. But I also knew that food is very rarely the only trigger and hence changes in diet alone cannot by itself help control eczema without the support of a good skin care and moisturizing routine.

Her results came back positive for most of the 29 allergens we had tested her for  showing high IgE levels for tree nuts (like hazelnuts, walnuts), house dust, sesame seeds. Her total IgE levels were higher than normal and surprisingly the test showed positive results for wheat, oats, lemon as well. As her pediatrician put it so well when she explained the results to us- “ Aiyana’s skin is like an angry person, such a person will react to most triggers at this point in time”. By the time we had got these results, we had seen her skin condition deteriorate continuously since October 2011 in spite of trying out the entire range of moisturizing and topical corticosteroids arsenal as and when required but to no avail. I decided to control her diet for the next year or so in the hope that it would help improve her eczema since it has seemed to help some other children. Since surprisingly for us she had a high positive outcome for wheat in the test, I really hoped that it might have been a key trigger for her eczema becoming worse over the past year or so.

In any case I was determined to leave no stone unturned in trying to control and improve her eczema. Hence I made certain changes in her diet, the most difficult part of which was making it “gluten-free”. I have decided to share my learnings that I gained by doing a lot of research on this unique diet, its availability in our country and ways in which I made sure Aiyana was able to follow this at home and more importantly outside as well.

GF

LUCKILY for us, we did a much more accurate skin scratch test for her in May this year and gluten was ruled out as an allergen and slowly we were able to introduce wheat and other forms of gluten without any issues. 

Gluten free??

In a country like India where allergies and diet restrictions are not very common and awareness is very low, the challenges of following a “gluten free” diet increases manifold. And when I had to explain dietary restrictions to a 6 year old child (and to others around us) and ensure that she follows it, I had to  make a lot of changes to the way we thought about food. Gluten is the protein complex found in wheat, barley and rye whereas oats is inherently gluten free but invariably suffers from cross contamination with other such grains. It gives elasticity to the dough, helping it keep its shape and And it is found in, well almost everything and I mean EVERYTHING!! I never knew it was all invasive till I had to list down foods that did not have gluten.

All the breads, pastas, noodles, Maggi, cakes, desserts, all the kinds of Indian breads like naans, rotis, wafers, biscuits and a host of other child friendly and convenient foods were a complete NO NO. The positive things about this was that a) it automatically made me look for healthier alternatives and more home cooked foods without high levels preservatives, sugar, fats and salt b) my daughter did not have coeliac disease which is an autoimmune disorder affecting the small intestine which has reduced inability to absorb nutrients from the food and only a COMPLETELY Gluten free diet helps. In fact, I had not even heard of this condition till I started to find out more about gluten free diet. Even now I have heard of just once child having this condition which is still comparatively rare in India. For a person having Coeliac disease, even a very small exposure can lead to seizures, osteoporasis and growth issues in children. In my daughter’s case I did not have to worry so much about cross contamination in the kitchen or the dust from wheat, maida (refined wheat flour) affecting her health since it did not affect her to that extent.

We never truly realise what we have till we have till we have to live without it

However, food was to become a huge challenge for us. I changed our flour options from wheat to others like jowar (sorghum), bajra (pearl millet), ragi (finger millet) but not completely successfully. For a child who is accustomed to the taste of wheat, it is a HUGE change.And it is definitely easier said than done. I started making pancakes, chapatis (a type of Indian bread) out of jowar, unsuccessfully tried to give her other food options made of ragi and bajra. She just didn’t like the taste. Luckily, a diet followed predominantly in southern India is made of rice and includes dosas, idlis and uttapams (a kind of crepe, a steamed preparation and a kind of pancake with toppings respectively) and which my children love. Also since one major staple food is rice for us (especially true for Bengalis like for me from the eastern part of India), I started giving a lot of snacks made out of rice for her school lunches and the like.

Variety is the spice of life

True to my nature, I did some more research and found out gluten free recipes through some amazing blogs and websites like www.glutenfreeconfessions.com and glutenfreegoddess.blogspot.in (the first one is my favourite one). They helped me get started on a journey which was different from any other. I learned to appreciate how difficult it is for people who are on restricted diets. I also made sure that for most parts, my whole family followed the same diet as my daughter. I also figured out ready mix gluten free products which were available in India and how to get them if they were not. This opened up a lot more options for us which were also tastier and convenient as a whole. I got bread, pancakes and other flour mixes from Orgran, Pamela’s products and Bob’s Red Mill, Schar from various places. Orgran as a brand was the only one readily available in Mumbai at that time. ( There are of course many more such brands available world wide to cater to a vast segment but I have not used any of those other brands.) But thankfully things have changed for the better in the last year and a lot more products are now available in India both offline and online. I am listing some of the products and their availability in our country-

  • Orgran Gluten free products – Foodhall at Phoenix Mills, Godrej Natures Basket in Mumbai
  • Bob’s Red Mill Natural Foods– Foodhall at Phoenix Mills
  • Bob’s Red Mill, Schar and Orgran products are also available on websites like http://www.healthyworld.in/,  http://www.gourmetco.in/ and http://www.foodesto.com/ which deliver all over India
  • Pamela’s Products are not available in India, I had to arrange for them from US

orgran

schar

I have used all of the above mentioned products apart Bob’s Red Mill. My favourite was the bread mix from Pamela’s Product which turned out quite close to a regular bread and almost as tasty. For someone like me who has never had to bake bread in her life, the end result was pretty decent as compared to when I was trying to make the same from scratch. However, I did manage to bake bread, cake and the likes from scratch using gluten free ingredients with mixed results. I would like to also list the ingredients that are available incase you are willing to try your hand at this as well-

  • Zero G – An Indian brand which has products like potato starch, corn starch ( not corn flour), GF atta and maida mix for rotis etc and other basic GF grains like sorghum etc. It is available in large grocery stores and online in the websites mentioned earlier

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  • Conscious Foods– another brand which has all kids of organic GF grains and flours like bajra, ragi, jowar etc
  • Bob’s Red MillGuar gum and Xanthan gum powder, both of which are essential to emulate the binding property of gluten in regular foods

A child’s dilemma

However, the most difficult part was to ask a 7-year-old to stop having what she had been used to eating so far and it was worse when she had to attend birthday parties and other social events. I had to prepare her mentally and then send some homemade cakes and even other foods so that she could eat something at the birthday parties. In most cases, I spoke to the hostess and asked them to have a couple of options for Aiyana if possible (and even had to refrain from sending her to a few of them).  Also in India, since these kinds of allergies are uncommon, there are hardly any options in terms of restaurant foods, bakeries and at social events (apart from the South Indian variety). It was a difficult time, but she knew that she was not supposed to eat a wide range of food and she did refrain from eating them. I started baking a lot more at home and even managed to make, cupcakes, muffins etc for her with the help of some of baking mixes which I sourced. Luckily for a mother like me, there are a lot of like-minded people in the world who have shared their gluten free recipes and other ideas which really helped us to adjust to this challenging diet.

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And finally, a kite rises highest against the wind, not with it

And so it is with my daughter. While I would certainly not wish for her or anyone else to go through these challenges which seem to cross her path ever so often, most of the times we do not have a choice but to face them head on. While my daughter has been put back on a regular diet from June this year, the 11 months or so when she had to follow this diet was a difficult time for her since it added to the challenges she faced already due to her severe eczema.

But I can already see the strength in her which helps her to lead as normal a life as possible and her will power which has increased by leaps and bounds in the past year or so.

I know now the she has the strength to not only rise against the wind but to soar to dizzying heights …

Beauty is not just “skin” deep- helping your child cope with eczema

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They say “Beauty is only skin deep” and I agree with them. But in most of the cases “they” do not have to cope with eczema. Only someone who is living with eczema day in and day out knows how difficult it is not to wilt under the stares, looks and occasional taunts of other people. I might not know it first hand but I do feel the pain every time my baby tells me a heartbreaking incident of another child (mostly) who teased her or commented on her looks, weight etc. It is very hard for me not to cry in front of her and/or find that person and go charging at him or her and give a piece of my mind. I myself have been blessed with good clear skin and I would give anything to change places with my daughter in this regard.

I do know that however difficult it might for both of us, the best way I can help her is by teaching her to be strong and to be prepared to answer questions from other inquisitive children and people. I also remind her often that we are proud of her and that she is a brave girl. Because, as much as I would like to protect her from all the hardships related to her eczema, I know that I cannot be with her all the time. And a major part of her struggle is not just physical. It is a mental struggle just to accept the reality of this chronic condition as well as to cope with it. Add to this she is just seven years old and you can see what I mean. Thus, a big part of the support is to teach my daughter to live with severe eczema and be happy in spite of it (till the time she grows out of this or we are able to find a way to get rid of it).

I still don’t have the answer to her question ” why did this happen to me and not anyone else?” And perhaps I never will. But what I do tell her is that she is not alone in this and though she might not realise it there are so many other children like her who have severe eczema and other different serious medical problems. But, unlike other medical conditions, eczema makes it difficult to hide the condition due to its physical manifestations. This is one major aspect which makes it so difficult to cope with.

There are moments when my daughter will keep asking me the same questions over and over ” when will my skin get better?” and ” will next year be worse?” ( her terrible experiences with eczema this year and last is the one which prompts this question and has been captured in my earlier posts). I can only reassure her that it will and next year will be better but I am unable to put a timeline to it. I do not want to make empty promises to her but at the same time I need to keep her spirits high (which is easier said than done). I constantly reassure her that all her caregivers including her family and doctors are looking out for her through her medications and other measures. It comforts her to be reminded often that she is not alone in this.  I am sure that those of you who have children with similar chronic conditions would be doing everything 24X7 to keep your child in good spirits. I decided to share some of the things that are working for us (well most of the time).

“Stop scratching” doesn’t help

There a lot of times that her itching increases significantly. I have realised that she simply cannot stop scratching when she sweats a lot or is very stressed or sleepy and saying “don’t scratch” will not help. Luckily, she is a creative child so I have been able to somewhat distract her by helping her do some craft activities, drawing and painting and puzzles at various points in time and reading to her and even singing together. These are things which interest her and help her calm down. Thus she is able to relax mentally and the antihistamines seem to work faster. I have also just started doing yoga with her ( with the help of short videos of yoga meant for children) as another way of controlling her stress and helping her relax. I hope to give you a positive update on this in the future.

A child counselor or psychologist 

I recently took Aiyana to meet a child psychologist as we had been planning for some time. Her doctors and I agreed that it might help her to speak to a third person (especially to a trained professional) since hers is a chronic condition and in light of all the trauma that she has been through in the last couple of years. Lately, she had also been complaining of nightmares with regards to her itching and skin condition (this seems to have stopped in the past week or so). When I took her last week it was heartening to be assured by the psychologist that Aiyana seemed to be a happy, balanced child in spite of all that she has endured in her young life. Still, Aiyana was very happy to have someone in authority listen to her problems (apart from her parents and doctors) and so I will be taking her occasionally for counselling.

You are not the only one

This is one thing I keep repeating for both our sakes. I have to remind her that there are many other children ( and other concerned/stressed parents like us) like her out there even though they may not be part of our friends and family.What  gives her some measure of comfort is to hear the inspiring stories about other people who battle their own demons, handicaps, debilitating conditions and have still managed to live life on their own terms. She especially loves hearing about true, inspiring stories of children with physical disabilities who have succeeded in sports and others with serious medical conditions and yet led happy lives. I am motivated by encouraging stories of mothers who have moved heaven and earth to enable their children suffering from severe eczema live a comfortable and happy life and of some other mothers who have gotten rid of it as well.

Aiyana with her doting uncle

Aiyana with her doting uncle

You’re beautiful inside and out

My darling Aiyana is the sweetest daughter that anyone could ever have and one I could have ever wished for. Her complete hair fall earlier this year has caused her much heartbreak and she still endures teasing from other children from time to time about “looking like a boy“. All those times when she cries her heart out because some child in school has told her she has such bad skin or try to peek under her scarf and tease her about her lack of hair, this is what I tell her. That no matter what one looks like on the outside and no matter how much emphasize is on one’s looks, what matters is that she is a loving, caring child who makes our world a better place to live in.

“When life gives you lemons, make lemonade”

If life gives you lemons make lemonade retro poster

And last but not the least, this is our new-found motto. I have shared the secret of living a happy life (in spite of all the problems) with my daughter – ” just add some sugar” when your life is filled with lemons (I have even managed to find and buy a tshirt for her saying the same thing- she is very happy wearing it!).

We try to look beyond the pain and look at the possibilities as well as all the achievements. This helps us to look at a future filled with hope and a determination to live life by enjoying each and every moment. And if that is not enough, I can always count on loads of hugs and kisses to lessen the pain for my daughter (however momentary it might be).

We laugh and make our very special ” lemonade”  on those days that seem overwhelming.

 I hope you can find a way to make your own with your child as well!

Related posts:

When the going gets tough…(Part 1)

….the tough get going (Part 2)